Holly McCamant: Confidence is true beauty
In today’s society, many of us have heard of the lack of confidence in young girls. I’ve seen it myself. It’s a thing that many girls have.
For the most part, I’ve been confident about how I look. I know I’m one of the few, but I believe that fast 800 times and writing are way more important than getting the perfect selfie.
I think it started back when I was little. My mom could care less about appearance, but still always was telling me I was pretty. She focused on the more important aspects of my life at the time, which back then was piano and school.
Also, I don’t ever remember caring about appearance at all when I was little. Now that I look back, I don’t remember being focused on any one thing. I just really wanted to make my parents happy, and everything I did kind of revolved around that.
The carefree world of young girls having appearance be the least of their concerns exists no more. When I was a kid, it was cool if you made a funny pose in a picture. Now the pressure is on to take a perfect selfie and have it look as pretty as your friends’ selfies.
Young girls are constantly being told by the media that it’s important to have the right makeup and hair.
However, the media is not to be blamed for the lack of confidence in young girls at all. Little elementary girls and junior high girls do not look up to that Ariana Grande as much as you might believe. They look up to older girls, their aunts, their teachers and most of all, their mothers.
I know that many of my wonderful readers are mothers. Chances are that if you are a caring enough person to read my columns, this message does not apply to you, but here it is anyways.
Never tell your daughter that she’s anything but beautiful for how she looks. I have never had this problem, but don’t tell her she’s fat. If you don’t want her to focus on her looks as much as you do, keep in mind that she probably will because she looks up to you as a role model.
Don’t criticize your own body unless you wish for her to do the same to herself. Instead, focus on her other gifts. Being pretty may get her a little ahead in life on the surface, but in the end, it’s not going to make a difference.
What will make a difference is if she’s good in school, at a sport, in art or music, or just about anything that she’s passionate about.
She will need to be confident in how she looks but confident over all. Confidence is what will get you far in life, and it does automatically make any person more attractive.
Now, young girls, I am sure you probably have more important things to do than read a random column in the newspaper unless you were like me and wanted to write for the Wave someday. However, I am going to say this anyways.
You are pretty. Stop comparing yourself to your friends; you are pretty in different ways. Boys care a whole lot less than you think about how you look. They like confidence, even though it may cause them to be scared.
If you’re a nice person, are good at something like sports or music, work hard in school, they and everyone else will notice that a lot more.
Girls, be confident. Approach your life with the attitude that you can do anything, and watch your life change. You are pretty, but that doesn’t define you. Your confidence and what you do with it does.
Holly McCamant is a sophomore at Frazee-Vergas High School.