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Now seems like a good time to start that bucket list

The Detroit Lakes Tribune ran an article Wednesday on a guy known for being a remarkable man in Perham - Tom Gould, owner of T.A. Gould Jewelry. The article told of Gould's medical diagnoses of normal pressure hydrocephalus (NPH), a condition that causes a buildup of fluid in the brain's ventricles, essentially putting pressure on the brain and causing difficulty in walking, talking and affects behavior and memory. The Goulds don't yet know what the future has in store for Tom or if they'll be able to defy the odds of what doctors are telling him, but in the meantime, he and his wife, Kathy, are making out a bucket list and checking it twice. The couple has big plans for traveling and enjoying life to the fullest, and one can't help but be reminded that we should all be living that way. After all, time is limited for everybody, so wouldn't it be wise of us to all have bucket lists that we are actively paying attention to?

It's tough to find a person with a terminal illness who wishes they'd have worked more or watched more TV. Spending time with family, traveling, fishing, laughing - those are the types of things people generally tend to do when they realize through a diagnosis that their time is almost up. So why don't we make them more of a priority while we are young and healthy and can enjoy those things to the max? Why do so many of us wait until we don't feel the best to finally really live? Those who've battled cancer or various other illnesses or have known and loved someone who has, knows all too well that often times that battle can make it hard to enjoy everyday life. So there really is no point in waiting for the diagnosis because sometimes when it comes, that bucket list might seem much more like a chore.

Tom and Kathy Gould are onto something now. They're not wasting a minute and are an excellent example to those who hear their story that nobody should. Let's do what Tom and Kathy are doing. Let's actually take a quiet moment, close our eyes and think about what we'd want to do if we were told things might be coming to an end for us - and let's do that. Let's write those things down and just start.

Paula Quam

Paula Quam is the editor for Forum Communications Co. newspapers in Detroit Lakes and Perham, both in Minnesota.

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