The New Year always seems to bring out our best intentions, which tend to present themselves through New Year’s resolutions.
In the past, I have made plenty of resolutions: read more, stop chewing my nails, do 10 daily push-ups. I know plenty of people who have had success, but I have never had much luck with resolutions, so I decided to opt out from making any this year.
However, I still wanted to do something to start this year off with a change.
One thing that had been at the back of my mind for a while was my hair. The last two and a half years passed by in a whirl, and my hair had been the last thing on my mind. It grew into the long, bleached remains of one too many summers under the sun and a handful of split ends.
Personally, 2019 was a fast-paced year full of many lasts and even more firsts. It was unquestionably the craziest year of my life, full of plot twists that I could have only dreamed about. It brought me unforgettable experiences, lessons, and people, but I also experienced struggles, disappointments and failures like never before.
Life is not exclusively an upward journey, and the occasional but steep downhills felt as discouraging and arduous as the uphills felt remarkable and breathtaking. While I will always carry the wisdom my struggles have taught me, I get to choose how long I hold onto something, and I decided it was time to let certain things go.
In this spirit, I decided it would be appropriate to cut a few inches off my hair. I am talking about a contemplated, but in the moment impulsive, hair-chop.
Disappointments and failures are a necessary ingredient for growth. They have been vital for my growth, but I do not want to dwell on the past, which is what I found myself doing. I have learned that there is a difference between learning from the past and holding onto the past. In order to continue to thrive, I needed to cut off those bleached, split ends that were weighing me down.
As I found myself in the salon chair, watching the strands get snipped away, I wondered, why have New Year's resolutions not worked for me? Maybe a list of goals is not enough to motivate me, or maybe it was just that I was not quite ready to change.
While I do not think the simple act of cutting my hair alters anything about me other than, well, the length of my hair, it felt fitting to make this long overdue change. So, here's to another New Year, a new 'do, and the success of New Year's resolutions (if you have any luck with them, anyway).
This column is a regular feature of the Tribune's monthly WAVE page. Do Yeon Kim is a Detroit Lakes High School graduate who is now a college student at Harvard.